Why Not?

Why Not?

“You can’t do this…because you aren’t ready to.” “You shouldn’t do this…because you can’t.” “You can’t do this…because they won’t let you.” “You can’t do that…because I won’t let you.” “You won’t do this…because it won’t change anything.” “You can’t do that…because it can’t do anything.” “You can’t do that…because I don’t want you to.”

You can’t this. You can’t that. You shouldn’t this. You shouldn’t that.

But why?

You can’t this. You can’t that. You shouldn’t this. You shouldn’t that.

Can you not? I know that I failed. I know I can’t do anything right. You don’t have to tell me, because I already know I fail at life.

All these words you throw at people. All these things that are “suppose to help”, “suppose to guide you”, “suppose to lead the way” or whatever else you can think of. But, in reality, do they really? Do they help and encourage, or do they really put down and make them shut down? Do they make a path, or do they really cut one’s life line? Do they give strength, or do they really just take away their courage or even pride?

Why do you say these things? In disappointment? In despise? Jealousy? Hatred? What? If you’re reading this, you might be asking yourself why only negative words are being used. You might mean well, in your position, but in my opinion these things hurt more than help. They can leave the person thinking why they are such a failure, why can’t they do better etc., or wondering if there is anything they can do anymore, if there is a place in the world for them etc. it hurts to hear these things. Once in a while, maybe it’s good to get a reality check (if the person even needs one) or hear about the future or whatever, but when it becomes more constant the negative feelings build up. It then might start making the person want to shut down, hide, or even disappear completely.

Some people think, “Why not? I’m just trying to help.” but in some cases, that’s not what’s happening. Maybe you can’t understand if you haven’t been there, the shoe hasn’t been on the other foot, but always try your best to try someone else’s shoes on. It might be that they see things a lot differently then you thought, or even hoped.

Thank You…You’re Loved

Thank You…You’re Loved

A friend. They always make you smile. They always know what to say. They know you like no one else. They give you what you need/want when you need/want it. They care for you. They care about you honestly and full-heartedly. They look out for you over and beyond everyone else. They get you. They understand you. Aren’t they just perfect?

Well this person in my life right now isn’t the person I get to see the most often. Actually I haven’t seen this person in a long time; it’s almost been half a year now. Yeah, it’s a bit torturous not being able to see them but having the ability to talk to them nearly every day is enough for me, for now. I can live with this, for now. Of course I always hope that there will be a day we will see each other in person again and get the chance to just hang out and be us again, but I don’t want to push the limits too much and put my hopes too high.

This person has been there for me since the day we met. I hadn’t known it then, but they have always been there for me. They’ve looked over me, cared for me, and made sure everything was alright. They were the sibling I had always wanted, but at the time, when we first met, I hadn’t been clear about how much I meant to them nor how much of an impact they were having on me. I definitely did not know that one day we would have to part and go separate ways, sort of.

Right now, even though I hadn’t named a particular person, I would like to thank this person for all they’ve done for me, all the times they’ve stood by me and made many of my hard days easier to handle, etc. I would name particular things they’ve done for me, at least a couple, but I honestly can’t remember as much as I would like to admit. I apologize for that. There’s a lot of them out there, I know that. So, my friend, I thank you. Thank you for all you’ve done for me. Thank you for appearing in my past and existing in my life right now. I hope you’ll stay a long way for the future as well. I don’t know what I would do if I lost a friend like you.

This post, isn’t just me thanking my friend, but also a message to the readers. People need to be told they are loved, needed, appreciated, and cared about. Maybe you think they already know, and it may be that they do, through your actions or just a message you’ve both known that’s been there but never actually said (if that makes sense). But either way, I think any person would love to hear the things you might have to say. There’s no shame in telling someone you love them. It might even make you stronger.

All of you, every single one of you out there, are cared about. Someone cares about you. Many people care about you.

All of you, every single one of you out there, are loved. Someone loves you. Many people love you.


Writing 101: Day 14

Writing 101: Day 14

Pick up the nearest book and flip to page 29. What’s the first word that jumps off the page? Use this word as your springboard for inspiration. If you need a boost, Google the word and see what images appear, and then go from there.

Today’s twist: write the post in the form of a letter.

My word: Always.


To whom it may concern:

I’ve always thought life was simple. It was to always do what you love, and love what you do. It was to always cherish what you have, not asking for more, to always love those around you and give them a place in your heart. It was to always be yourself, even when other’s hated. It was to always be happy, to be you.

But as I grew up, people around be constantly said “never do this” or “never do that”, and it occurred to me, one day, that many people didn’t know this. They didn’t know how to always believe, always have faith, and always stay strong. They didn’t know how to always be happy, always stay true, and always be you. They didn’t know that, even though the world tosses you around and people make you go mad, the word “always” still stands because it doesn’t matter what happens, or who has hurt you, or what has happened. You should always be happy, always stay true, and always be you. You need to always believe, always have faith, and always stay strong. Because what’s meant to be, will ALWAYS find a way.

Life is simple, really, if you think it that way. The most important things are the “always”. Always be happy. Always be you.


A friend who’s trying to live by “always”

Friends by Choice

Friends by Choice

She’s always got my back. I wonder why I never really understood that. I don’t think I ever cherished what I had because…I didn’t know what I had. I always thought she was always too busy for me, or has her own life to deal with so I never dared to bother her with my own social life, drama or plainly boy problems. I rarely talked to her about anything. I never asked her for anything. I didn’t dare to. She always seemed so busy. She has her own busy schedule, busy life, busy classes to attend to. I never thought there was any more room for me in her life. But maybe…I was wrong.

We are sisters anyways. We grew up together. She knows nearly everything about me; what I like, what i dislike, what i love, what i despise; but now that I think about it, I don’t really know much about her. Here I was trying to make myself so isolated from everyone that no one really knew me, my sister understood so much about me yet she is somehow the person I wanted to be. No one really understands her. Why is she always stressed? What is she so constantly worried about? When is she happy and when is she about to cry? ….Why don’t I know any of these things? I sound like such a great sister, don’t I?

But I do care. I do try to be there. But…she’s always so closed up from me. She always talks to our mom about things. She would go cry to her when she’s so stressed she can’t handle it anymore, but never to me. Maybe because I love to play too much…I wouldn’t understand for her. Maybe it was just because I was younger, and she was simply protecting me. Whatever it is, I want her to know that I do care about her. I do love her. I love her very much. Also, I would love to be there for her and will always be here for her as long as she lets me.

Like I said, I never asked for anything from her before. I never dared. But tonight, I did. I backed up my favor with sentences and sentences, not ready for her to say no. She said ‘Okay :)’ within seconds of me sending her the message. That moment, I understood. She has had my back this whole time. She has always been ready for me to go cry to her about anything in life that bugged me. She has always been there for me all these years. It was me who couldn’t see. It was me who was blind. I didn’t see that when I was looking around for this perfect friend, this perfect person to talk to and count on, my sister was right there behind me.

I love you, my sister. Never forget that.

I Don’t Want To Loose Him

I Don’t Want To Loose Him

He doesn’t know me. He doesn’t get me. He doesn’t know my past, my future, my ‘now’. He doesn’t know me.

I want to tell him. I want to show him how much of me he doesn’t know so he won’t think he knows everything; so he doesn’t think he is all prepared to take everything. But I’m also scared to show him, because what if I show him and he gets scared himself? What if he decides I’m too much for him to handle? What if he decides to leave and say I’m not good enough? I don’t want to loose yet another friend.

My past. I know it’s gone and I can’t do anything to change where I’ve been or who I’ve become. I know I can’t erase what has happened to plan out what will become. But that’s the thing. The past, my past, is what it is and I can’t do anything to change that, but will he understand for me? My past has brought me to where I am standing, right? If I hadn’t gone through the things I did, I might have become another person.

My future. I don’t know where it’s going to lead me, that’s why I’m here to find out.

My ‘now’. I barely get myself a hundred percent. How can he have a chance?

Broken Light Collective Announcements!

Broken Light Collective Announcements!


Broken Light: A Photography Collective

Just for today, we are straying from our format a bit to share some exciting news!!!

Our first live exhibit is coming up in just a few weeks! “FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT: Photography by Broken Light Collective” is going to be a seven-week exhibit at the amazing non-profit Fountain Gallery in NYC (48th and 9th). The opening reception will be held on June 26th from 6-8 pm. We would love to see you there!

We are also excited to announce that we are now a NON-PROFIT organization! The money we raise will go directly towards improving this site, creating more live exhibits and photo sales opportunities for you the contributors, and starting up free and low-cost photography workshops for people who are struggling.

In this time of growth, you will notice a few new features on the site, including a new logo, a “press” section with interviews, as well as…

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