I’m sick and tired of hearing the phrase “too different“. Yes, the things we aren’t used to can be somewhat intimidating. Yes, the things that we aren’t as exposed to can be very mysterious. Yes, the things we’ve never seen or dealt with may come with some trials of test and errors. But, so what?
The things you aren’t used to can teach you so much. The things you aren’t regularly exposed to can show you a whole new way to see the world in which you are living. The things you have to experiment with may just be your answer to several questions you have had steaming in the back of your mind.
I get it. There’s the “too different” that make your world clash with theirs and nothing but chaos seems to come of it, despite the lesson there is to learn in all of it. But there is also the “too different” that you feel a calling to, that beckons you to get to know it better, to explore your options and to test your limits.
Haven’t you ever been told “there’s nothing wrong with being different”? I see the world differently; you see the world differently. You examine the situation one way while I examine it with a whole different perspective. We can be sitting side by side on the spectrum, but still see things at different eye levels. We can also be trying to scream at each other from opposite sides of the spectrum but, still, either way, something comes of it.
Your world might have always been filled with security while my world might have been dusted with doubt. Your eyes might see the colors of the rainbow while my eyes see only black, grey, and white. It doesn’t matter how “different” we are. But when it comes to denying each other the potential to venture into our “different” worlds, then it matters.
Am I “too different” to try and understand what kind of life you’ve lived? Am I “too different” to become a friend who you can count on? Am I “too different” that you cannot learn anything from me, or vice versa? No.
So enough bullshit about how I will never understand how you see things, enough excuses about why you shouldn’t bother to try and explain your life to me. Enough is enough. There’s no such thing as “too different“, there’s just “different“.